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Agreed and thank you for talking about gen z- I'm in my 40s w/ no kids but I work alongside gen Z at a spa and they are exactly as you say- quiet, eerily relaxed, and for some reason I always feel 'on' or performative around them when in fact, I'm pretty laid back myself! It's so weird haha...definitely feel you and taking notes from gen z too :)

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Aug 2·edited Aug 2Liked by Kyra Evans

The best newsletter this year. Very insightful and absolutely necessary in our overworked, overly busy, overtired society. There's no need to appear this busy only to get a bit more validation that you're doing it all right (based on who's values?). Easy and pleasant all the way! Life is already hard enough, especially for millennials who were promised one world and received a different one, and it's baffling how to make any of this work now

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Beautifully written! I’ve been actively working more ease into all aspects of life this year, and it feels like you summarized my entire journey. 💕 The perfect essay to pair with an “actual” lemon-squeezed beverage, and take sips all summer long. Thank you

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Really love this Kyra and it resonates so much! I feel like I’ve spent my whole life trying to pretend I’m interested in stuff I’m not, I think you’d call it a people pleaser. Now I work for myself, it’s still taken a few years to stop working like someone is watching. I’ve needed a sense of control to make me feel safe, but have gradually let go of the shoulds and replaced with the yes pleases. The sense of ease you refer to now feels more attainable. 🙏💫

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This was such an interesting read. I’m at the tail end of Gen x and definitely feel that need to perform my listening in social situations.

I also wish I could go with the flow a bit more but I also try to bend reality to my expectations which is exhausting.

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Wow, loved reading this. I’m at the tail end of GenX, and as much as I long for ease, I spend my days exhausting myself with planning, hustling and worry - my mind is firmly set at ´hard work and work stress = a good pay. Ease and calm = no money therefore swing back to hard work as the only way out’ thank you for this different perspective. I like it very much! (As I sit and list all the mountain of tasks I need to get through and worry how I’ll make it...) it’s going to take some practice!!

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Aug 1Liked by Kyra Evans

Thanks for putting this all into a place where I can read and re-read it to absorb this great insight.

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